Showing Love in the midst of hate

We avoid retaliation or argument. We wouldn’t treat sick people that way. If we do, we destroy our chance of being helpful. We cannot be helpful to all people, but at least God will show us how to take a kindly and tolerant view of each and every one.    Alcoholics Anonymous  pg 67

 “But if you are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Pray for the happiness of those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn the other cheek. If someone demands your coat, offer your shirt also. Give what you have to anyone who asks you for it; and when things are taken away from you, don’t try to get them back. Luke 6:27-28 NLT

 Father, I thank you for the Golden Rule.  Do unto others as I would have them do unto me.  Help me to pray rather than insult and argue.  Help me to return blessings for hurts.  Help me to show your love in the midst of hate.  In Jesus Name, Amen.

6 responses to “Showing Love in the midst of hate

  1. I think many of us alcoholics have proven to ourselves that arguing is pointless most times.

    Many of us have had a penchant for argument and debate. Born largely out of a wish to control and act selfishly.

    So would it not stand to reason for us to try a totally new thing and stop participating in arguments?

    I am often curious, and frankly, we may never know in this lifetime, the context or setting in which Jesus spoke his words. I wonder what the setting was that compelled him to give an alternative to arguing and hating? Must have been a lot of that going on at that time. Yet so little has changed to date.

    And early AAs discovered same thing Jesus spoke about nearly 2000 years prior, that arguing was largely futile… at least it is between people whose motives are not expansion of understanding and willingness to hear… which certainly describes us alcoholics by and large.

    I remember being so protectionistic about my opinions and beliefs. I often argued because I needed others to agree and conform in order to validate my own stance to myself. Pretty insecure when you think about it.

    To me, it is amazing how powerful and timeless Jesus’ teachings are. So much so, they can even help some of the most problematic people in our world, alcoholics and addicts.



    • Hi Chaz, I can relate about the arguing. I too had to try to get you to agree with me to be validated and I would argue until you succumbed to my way of thinking. So glad that today I don’t have to do that. Once I learned to be rooted and grounded in how God saw me then the opinions of those around me didn’t change the way I viewed myself. Today I know we can have differing opinions and ideas and not lash out at you because you don’t think like me. I was really set free when I learned that Love is not a feeling and that I could set my feelings aside and love everyone. The hard part can be setting those feelings aside sometimes and not acting on them but instead choosing to do what Jesus did and respond in love. Thanks for stopping by my blog! have a GREAT Day! Cheryl

      • Ya Cheryl…. pretty amazing feeling of freedom when we finally become comfortable in who we are today, and not have to rely on external validations to tell us.

        I am in the Automotive industry and I see how people try to make statements about who they are with their vehicles. The amount of wasted time, money, and energy that people put into essentially dressing themselves with something they seem to need so desperately to confirm to themselves what they are. Yet it is a rapidly-depreciating concotion of metal, rubber and glass that will cost them a lot of money and in many cases, be worthless in 10-12 years.

        Versus just being at peace in any moment. Learning to understand and feel God’s affirmation of us so that those external factors, which frankly are often unreliable, are not necessary.

        Sure, the nice belongings and kind words from others are great. So I suppose it becomes a matter of priority. Do they serve as a bit of spice or sprinkle of sweetness in our lives, or do we look the them as our staple diet?

        Great post…. I know we are meandering a bit here.



  2. Today I am 25yrs sober, and was looking for inspiration. I just came across your Mysapce page on being 25 in Sept. Congrats! I hardly come across people my age with so much sobriety. It made me really happy to see your post and find your blog. Also today I had a friend make a snide remark towards me and have been fighting all day to not return in jest. I meditated on it thankfully and remembered kindness is best to offer in response to negativity. So this post was so perfect for me to read.

    • Hi Madison, CONGRATULATIONS on 25 years! Wow! Its such a blessing to be sober since I was 16. Who would have thought it? How old were you when you got sober? I met a woman in Colorado who became my sponsor..she got sober when she was 18 and that was back in 1971. Young people DO recover!! I looked at your website. That is so awesome to be living in Guatemala, it must be so interesting. I related to your list of 25 things you were grateful for. My husband, John, is also in recovery and together we have a 15 year old daughter who has never seen us drink. Praise God! I remember trying to explain to her about us going to meetings when she was small. She looked at me and said ” You do still drink, mommy. You’re drinking iced tea right now.” It was so funny. Anyway, I’m so glad you stopped by. I look forward to getting to know you better. Have a GREAT Day! Cheryl

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