It’s amazing to see that after years of sobriety people in these rooms can be so easily decieved into believing they are doing just fine. Their lives are on track, their defects not as glaring but the selfishness is still firmly rooted in them and they don’t see it. Most of their time is now focused on their new good life and they have tricked their hearts and minds into believing that this is not selfishness but self-love. Now don’t get me wrong there is a time when we must learn how to love ourselves but this is not what I’m referring to. What I’m referring to is the lack of selflessness that comes from reaching out to help others out of the alcoholic pit. It seems that many AA’s are satisfied with their lives after working the steps, making amends and having restored relationships that they forget about the true message of AA. That its because many people shared sobriety with them that they can now have a restored life. They forget that the message of Alcoholics Anonymous is to be carried to those still suffering. Their sobriety is maintained at a mediocre level because they lack the joy and faith that comes from working with others. I have many people tell me that they want what I have but they never get it. Its because they lack the one thing that I refuse to give up and that is working with others. I’ve actually had them turn down people and tell them to call me instead. They aren’t realizing that they are turning down an opportunity for growth and handing it off to me which I gladly accept. I’m so grateful that people were there to answer the phone when I called. I’m glad that the meeting was always open and that there was always someone to chair the meetings I attended. I understand that when I first came in that I need d to accept help and soak it all in but there comes a time in sobriety when we must step up and start giving back. This is a sign of true maturity, the ability to let go of self so that someone else might be helped. To continue to be a taker and hang on to our selfish nature is not a sign of spiritual growth. We grow spiritually when we reach out and help others. Am I still rooted in selfishness? Am I still mainly concerned with myself and my life or am I concerned about others and how I may be a blessing to them?